🖤 Last night I had the privilege of speaking at The Sterling Group (an organization focused on supporting leading women) about building your Digital Twin before it builds you.

I opened with a confession: I can unlock my twin sister’s phone with my face. Her Face ID, trained on her eyes, her bone structure, her identity, looked at me and saw her.

That’s the question I’ve spent my whole life answering: What makes you YOU when someone else shares your DNA, your voice, your face?
And now it’s the question every leader must answer.

Because here’s what most people don’t realize: You’re already building a Digital Twin. Every email you send, every decision you document, every digital trace you leave is training AI to become a version of you.

The difference? Your Digital Twin doesn’t know the difference between your best self and your worst Wednesday.

Three things I shared that sparked the most conversation:

The wisdom log.
When you make a good decision, don’t just write down what you decided. Write down why. That becomes intentional training data. Your best thinking, on purpose.

Completion, not replication.
Your Digital Twin shouldn’t mirror your thinking. It should complete it. Just like my sister Lorrie and I don’t succeed because we think alike. We succeed because we think differently about the same problems.

The sticky notes on your DNA.
Identical twins start with the same genetic code, yet become different people through experience. Your Digital Twin works the same way. Same foundational training can produce very different results depending on what experiences you give it.

Thank you to The Sterling Group for creating space for this conversation.

The questions from the room reminded me why I wrote this book. Leaders are hungry for frameworks that help them harness AI’s power while staying authentically human.

The gap isn’t between those who use AI and those who don’t. It’s between those who are intentional about what they’re building and those who let it build by default.

Stand out. Stay human.